Friday, May 31, 2013

5 truths in 10 years.

Marriage has in it less of beauty, but more of safety, than the single life; it hath not more ease, but less danger; it is more merry and more sad; it is fuller of sorrows and fuller of joys; it lies under more burdens, but is supported by all the strengths of love and charity; And those burdens are delightful.

Jeremy Taylor

That quote was on our wedding programme ten years ago. 

And with ten years of hindsight, tis true. 

5 truths.

"Marriage has in it less of beauty, but more of safety"
We are 10 years older. The truth is we have aged. From the hair that is thinning slightly to the lines on our faces and the jeans that don't fit as nice. I remember 6 months of facials and other beautifying treatments. We don't anymore. Well, he doesn't. But it is pretty much okay.

"It is more merry and more sad."
It is more merry indeed with all the laughter from JED and the years of in jokes that we share. But more sad too because the hurts can run deeper. And with familiarity, it is easy to hurt; so we try very hard to always be kind. 

"It is fuller of sorrows and  fuller of joys"
When we so desperately wanted kids and none were forthcoming, the days were indeed filled with dark sorrows. And as our marriage fought to survive that, we discovered more joy in being with one another and became best friends above all else.

"It lies under more burdens"
True that. We have never worried so much in our lives; about money, JED, our parents, our future, the world...

"But is supported by all the strengths of love and charity"
And as we stand on the brink of a decade of marriage, we do so with thanksgiving in our hearts, to everyone who taught us about marriage, love, commitment and faith. And we give thanks fully, especially to God.

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  1. Such truth. Happy anniversary in advance! I'm looking forward to my 11th wedding anniversary this year with someone I'm glad to call my best friend, my partner, my companion, my husband.

  2. Thanks Eleanor! So glad that they are our best friends!

  3. Beautiful and meaningful quote for your wedding day. Thanks for the reminder! And happy 10 years! :)

  4. An honest post about marriage. Nevertheless very lovely and thought-worthy.